In today’s complex and evolving political environment, it is easy to feel powerless or disconnected from the decisions shaping our communities. But now more than ever, it’s essential to remember that elected officials are not distant figures—they are people who represent us, and they rely on relationships to make informed choices. Building authentic, respectful connections with those in office is one of the most effective ways to influence policy and drive meaningful change. The following tips offer practical, proactive guidance on how to become a trusted voice and ally in the policymaking process—especially in times when advocacy, compassion, and clarity are urgently needed.
Top 10 Tips to Influence Elected Officials
By Deb Soholt, RN, MS, FAAN – Fmr. SD State Senator
- Elected officials are just people. They want relationships just like you do – honest, open, trustworthy. They may seem out-of-reach – they are not. They work for you.
- Reach out and set a time to meet one-on-one for a cup coffee. Ask for ½ hour of their time and stick to it. Do not go over the planned meeting time unless they ask if you can stay longer. Do not ask for anything in this meeting. Get to know them as a person. Have them get to know you and what you are interested in – be broad, not specific. Such as “I am an expert in working with people who are developing their intentions for the end-of their-life”. Only speak to specific legislation if asked. Share that you want to help them. That you could be a subject expert that they could count on, with real life stories to help. Give your cell number and encourage to call you if in any way you can be helpful. Follow-up with a gracious thank-you email or text, again offering to help.
- When you see something, such as an article or have a story, that expands what you want to do, email to them. This should not be volumes, but something short. If more than 3 pages of information, provide the bullets of what can be found in the article etc. Add a brief note about “saw this and thought of our conversation”. Remind that you want to be helpful to them and their constituents. Encourage to reach out at any time.
- When you see they have done something that aligns with your values and position, send an email thanking them for their work. This can be brief, but personal. That you see their commitment and respect it. Again, remind you are a subject expert who can help.
- When you are contacted, respond as soon as possible. If you are too busy, send a text that speaks to when you can get back to them. Always follow-up with any promised information.
- If your formal association/organization is sending an email blast with the same message, personalize it with a few sentences before that content. Make it personal. Share a story of how it applies in real life or what you have been thinking about. Do this thinking about your one-on-one relationship. You would not send someone you respect in your personal life a “canned” message. Think the same way with the official you want to be a “trusted mate” for.
- As you get to know this person, policy/political commitments will start happening between you. If you have an agreement and you change your mind, always go back to them and explain yourself otherwise you will no longer be trusted. The same is true if the official changes their mind. Reach out and ask what changed. This is for understanding, not criticism. Almost always there are things that can’t be fully appreciated without more information.
- Be a catalyst in helping to pull together coalitions to get meaningful things done.
- Never send a disparaging email (especially in all CAPS!) implying “how could you be so stupid”!
- Relax and have fun! This does not have to be heavy. Both of you want the same ease in relationship.
- OK…said only 10, but this one shows you believe in them. Make a donation to their campaign – even if very small – along with a handwritten note.
